But I thought the problem was only the ball. I found a way to privately pull him aside, give him his ball back, and apologize. But he didn't seem as excited about the apology and return of his ball as I thought he would be. I didn't know it at the time, but what I should have done is made the apology as public and broad as the accusation. The biggest pain the other boy experienced was the humiliation of the false accusation and I hadn't fixed that.
I didn't like writing what I did yesterday about Goshen College. I tried to nuance what I said as carefully as I could. I know shining a light on this problem can hurt innocent people. My greatest fear is that as other voices join with mine that these voices will be careless and reckless in their accusations. But I have also known that my story is not alone and some have experienced significant harm. I have been surprised by the number of comments and private messages I've received that resonate with my concerns. I see the injustice that is put upon current and prospective students as the college lives in that disconnect between its public face and what it really is.
I am not trying to force Goshen College to change its identity. Maybe the board, the administration and faculty will decide to make some changes. That is up to them, but it's not a battle I feel called to lead. But I do want to force greater clarity so that the campus story and the public story are actually the same story. I want to name the perspective and demagoguery so that parents and prospective students make an informed choice about their education. For years I tried to overlook these realities and be supportive. But the cost of silence has been too high and I can no longer remain quiet.
-John M Troyer